So Cody has been working at his new job now for almost two weeks. He has been the sweetest husband since he's been home, too. When he gets up at 5:30 in the mornings for work, he is so quiet and lets me sleep in a while longer. He's had my coffee made for me when I get up every morning... well mostly every morning. The other morning I had a headache, so he got medicine for me and cuddled with me on the couch for a few minutes before he had to leave. Also, I came home that night to a vacuumed floor and dishes that had been washed. I've come home to him starting the laundry several times. I mean, am I dreaming? Surely this type of behavior doesn't last forever, but don't get me wrong, I appreciate everything he does to help out! We're probably still in the "honeymoon" phase... better not get my hopes up.
Over these past two weeks, I have learned a few of things... especially about men. My husband may be a sweetheart, but he is still your typical guy. Here are 3 things I've learned about the male population:
1) Guys are NOT observant- We have 2 hampers, one for towels and one for clothes, and it's quite obvious which is which. Cody gets out of the shower and throws his dirty clothes in the towel hamper and his towel in the clothes hamper. I was thinking, "He really just did that?" Yep, he did. So then I had to explain to him which hamper was which when I thought he could tell by simply looking. Oh, and don't EVER clean up and organize a guy's things and put them in their PROPER place because he won't take the time to look for them. He'll just quiz you to death, and you'll just have to find it for him... at least that's what my husband does. If only I wasn't so OCD this wouldn't be and issue.
2) Guys take LONGER than girls to get ready- It takes me maybe 10 minutes to shower (that's with shaving and washing my hair). Cody takes 20 minutes. We had to be at church the other morning by 8:15 at the latest; we needed to be leaving our house by 7:50 to make it on time. I'm dressed and ready to go. Guess who is standing in the living room, ironing his khakis in his underwear at 7:40! I politely asked him if he was going to get ready any time soon. He then asks for the time (again, NOT observant); I tell him 7:40. "Oh crap," he says. Well, we made it by 8:15 by the grace of God... and Cody's lead foot. :)
3) Guys have a hierarchy of loves that compete for their attention, and unfortunately, women are most always at the bottom- Cody's loves are as follows: football, hunting, CSI and NCIS (and any shows similar to those), his PlayStation 3, his iPhone 4S (Siri is his other woman; I definitely can't compete with a robot), and then... I think it's me. If you are higher on your man's list, then I applaud you! Please share how you got to be his first priority; I would love to know! I do get attention from Cody, and no, I don't have to be the center of it all the time. I want him to enjoy his guy time just like I enjoy my girl time, but it's nice to beat out football or TV once in awhile.
I know I probably shouldn't make generalized statements about guys. They really aren't all the same, and we girls sure don't like it when guys make stereotypical comments about us. We both have quirks and annoying behaviors that get on each others' nerves. At least, I know I can be annoying. I'm a newbie at this whole marriage thing, but to me, the beauty of marriage is how God brings two different people, sometimes very different, together in love. He knows them before they are even born and creates them specially for each other.
Psalm 139:13-14 are familiar verses that praise God for our uniqueness: 13) For You created my inmost being; You knit me in my mother's womb. 14) I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Marriage is an ongoing learning process; it's an adventure, hopefully a fun one. I know Cody's and my marriage has been fun... so far. Yes, we get annoyed and frustrated at each other at times, but God uses those annoyances and quirks to grow our patience and help us learn more about each other. Those quirky and annoying habits are just part of our uniqueness that we have to learn to embrace. Besides, I did vow to love Cody for better or for worse. :)
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